Many undecided voters are claiming that they don’t know who to trust.

“One guy says one thing, and the other guy says the opposite,” they say.

They ask, “Who am I supposed trust?” Or they say, “I don’t trust either one!”

I’ve been asked this question, or heard that statement many times.

If you’ve been canvassing, making calls to undecided voters, or just chatting with people at work, you’ve probably heard it too.

So has Dr. Cara Barker, a blogger for The Huffington Post who is an adjunct professor in psychology at Seattle University, and who “has mentored not only Fortune 500 leaders, but children, teens and adults from all walks of life.”

In a recent post entitled Prescription For Dealing With Opposites, she writes:

“How do you know what to trust?” In nine client sessions today, I heard this question eight times. Some were referring to the economic upheaval. Others were distressed over the current political brouhaha. All you need do is turn on the tube, channel surf until you reach one of the political debates, sit back, fasten your seatbelts, and remember to breathe. Because one thing is for certain. You are about to hear two completely different spins on the same subject. It’s not too difficult to imagine a universal rising of blood pressure.

Dr. Barker goes on to say, “When we cannot tell fact from fiction, we are in trouble.”

She then offers a prescription that includes a 28-day 3-step process.

But, I have news for Dr. Barker.  The 2008 Presidential Election is 25 days away.  We don’t have time for that prescription!!

Instead, here’s how I respond to this kind of bewilderment on the part of allegedly undecided voters.

I first explain that the truth is that many most Americans aren’t honest enough with themselves to be able to trust themselves enough to be able to recognize real truth when they see it.

The reason people aren’t honest with themselves is that it’s often too frightening to do that.  People don’t want to know what they might find, even inside of themselves.

So they have to blame something external for why they don’t yet have what they don’t have yet, when the real reason is internal.

That’s why people don’t want to go there.  (Some people, that is; others are eager to find out and are more likely to appreciate someone who brings out the most in them.)

Then I explain that there’s a way to get out of that distrusting loop.

First, realize that the feeling of triumph over adversity feels great because it’s human nature to desire that feeling.  That’s why it feels great to accomplish something that you didn’t at first think you could.

In other words, what’s so great about doing something you know you can do?  That’s no accomplishment.  As Chris Rock says, “That’s what your supposed to do!”

But many people don’t have any “dreams” of this type because they automatically assumed (once) that they couldn’t achieve them anyway, so why bother having them?

These kinds of people look at others who “do” have dreams through a cloud of cynicism or negativity.  People who won’t dream can’t stand people who dream, because seeing someone like that smacks them in their own face with their own lack of self-trust due to lack of self-honesty.

But when you ask those people what they love to do, they always have an answer.

And therein is the key to turning around their lack of trust of others by helping them regain their trust in themselves.

Probably, no one has asked them “What do you love?” in a long time.  These people haven’t attracted that kind of a question because they haven’t even asked “themselves” that kind of a question.

So, it starts with asking each other, and therefore ourselves, “What do you love to do?”  That very thing is the thing that you “didn’t think you could do” but which, if you accomplish it, will give you the biggest reward.

Not only that, but let’s say you don’t accomplish it.  You’re guaranteed to have a “helluva great time” along the way, because you loved what you were doing!  It’s a winning situation!  There’s no down side.

So if you or your friends encounter someone like this while you’re canvassing or making calls, please feel free to use this approach or share it with others.

Tell ‘em it’s the “make history now” technique.