Half-apologies are worse than no apology at all because they leave the residue of unresolved negative emotions. With no apology you can at least still seek one.
I want to bring up the subject of how to apologize, even though I’ve written about this topic before.
In light of new information I shared last week about the concept known as the pain-body, being able to resolve negative emotions as quickly as possible is more important now than ever.
Resolving negative emotions right now can start with a simple apology.
This goes both ways. That is, it benefits the apologizer as well as the aplogizee.
First, do you know what I mean by “half-apologize”?
It’s when someone says, “I’m sorry you feel that way.” Or if they say, “I could have calibrated those words differently.”
Neither of those are FULL apologies. And there are many other examples, of course.
Not only that. A half-apology is worse than no apology.
That’s because half-apologies leave the residue of unresolved negative emotions — they add to the pain-body.
At least with no apology you can still seek a real apology.
To apologize properly, and FULLY, follow these 5 easy steps:
- Say “I’m sorry.”
- Say, “I was wrong” or “That was wrong.”
- Ask, “How can I make it up to you?” or “How can I make it right?”
- Say, “I’ll never do it again” or “I’ll try my best to stop doing that” or “Here’s how I am going to fix it.”
- Ask, “Will you please forgive me?”
Yes, it’s THAT simple.
Even a kid could do it.
You’ll soon learn how to give and receive proper apologies.
Better yet, download this printable “How To Apologize FULLY” poster and tape it to your refrigerator, bulletin board, office door, bathroom mirror, or anywhere else where you and others (like your kids, co-workers, spouse) will SEE it and READ it!